My Natural Hair Journey Has Been Hopeless (Rants Of A Natural Hair Wannabe)

                
I haven't used relaxer on my hair since Dec/Nov last year, so technically I’m en route being a Natural hair owner if not one already!. Yeah, and I'm here to share my almost hopeless journey.
Truth is, it’s been crazy all the way, especially from the fact that people won’t mind their business and would keep asking when I'm gon' retouch it, and  hair stylists aren't helping issues, they keep complaining on top of my hair at the 'massive undergrowth.

 “My God, it’s not undergrowth, it’s my natural unrelaxed hair, coming up..so welcome it and handle with care", I told one of them, almost cussing her out. 

The only thing I enjoy in this journey so far, is that I don’t cry anymore when I visit a salon. OK, lemme break it down, I chose this natural way thing, because, relaxers, no matter the product even made in haven ones burn my scalp so badly, that I weep uncontrollably every time I retouch it, like I shamelessly weep in salons and it’s becoming embarrassing  and capable of giving me High B.P if not sending me into a massive shock, because when I remember the pain, my heart skips a beat, so I gave up, haven tried all ticks as suggested by hair gurus.

Some even suggested chilling the relaxer in a freezer, hours before retouching, another group suggested pouring ashes on my hair prior to retouching, some others said I should leave my hair to be soooooo due and dirty that the dirt no go be here, what it remains, is for me to pour nsi aboki on top my hair,because of non of these worked! So I ran to 'miss natural' side of the road, hoping it was easy as I see on Instagram and YouTube, but my brethren, I was far.

At the first stage, it was quite easy, because I didn’t cut my hair to start afresh, so my retouched part was helping especially in getting the whole hair laid back, braiding was still fun at this part, I could still comfortably braid my hair without attachment or anything and carry it up to a few weeks or less but as we progressed, weeks turned into months, the spongy hair was beginning to manifest and flaunt itself.  Braiding became a WAR, ordinary combing was too scary…at this point, getting the hair laid back was an uphill task, as the upcoming natural hair would stand on it’s own as if it’s not a member of the remaining retouched hair part. I will drag and drag it to cooperate ,it wont budge and when it does, it runs away after a while! Damn it!

The struggle of combing those stubborn hairs

Next thing I knew I became a Reverend sister, I'm a sucker for scarves and turbans but with my present hair condition, I became an over sucker, my fashion revolved around scarves, I had to buy more turbans to help my ministry, even face caps joined the gang. I was covering the hair..because my hair it’s a total mess!

So to adjust my fashion, I moved onto wigs, I got wigs and was slaying in my wigs, anytime I'm out of the house but wait ooh, what's the essence of being natural if you can’t comfortably flaunt them at your will like those IG & YouTube girls, if you always have to hide them beneath wigs and turbans …I think it’s pointless, right?? If you agree, can I get a ‘Ride on sis’ lol.

So I moved from my wigs to my current locks, nope I didn’t lock my hair, I braided faux locks..so it can blend with my undergrowth natural hair. It was fine the first few weeks but it’s now looking like my under growth is overshadowing the locks….my journey has been hopeless so far.

I don’t know how to get it laid back like those ladies I see on Instagram, but most of those chics were not born or even bred nor live here in Naija. Nigerian weather and climate isn’t helping the hair issues. Who else is on this race, how has your journey been…gist us biko, because I’m seriously eyeing a relaxer, let me weep for some minutes and slay my laid back hair and baby curl edges later   but the pain is unbearable, even staring at a relaxer container, lately, makes me want to cry, like I feel the pain from within.

This is how I feel, eyeing a relaxer and dreaming of laid back hair

Would love to read your experience.

~Vee

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